Our love is often dominated a lot by personality and love experiences in the past. Because of that, some people come to love very easily, but also others face many difficulties. There are people who deal with their feelings with confidence and enthusiasm, but there are also many people who are “afraid of love” and want to avoid romance.
According to experts in psychology, there are three unconscious fears that prevent us from falling into true love. These psychological factors profoundly affect our thoughts and lead us to act “reject love when it comes” to protect the soul of peace.
1. Fear of Injury
According to psychologist Dr. Pat Love: Negative memories of past love can make us wary and do not want to “open up” to new relationships. Maybe that is why more and more adults choose to refuse love as a way to protect their feelings.
For those who have witnessed the failure of their parents’ marriage or suffered from a deep love, their minds often have a “defense” when love comes. And so people are afraid of love, afraid of experiencing the feeling of rupture, fear of bleeding wounds, and hurting each other.
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“NO ONE HASKS LOVE, ALL ONLY because THEY CAN’T FIND THE SUITE WAY TO TOUCH YOUR HANDS TO HAPPY”.
Hurt in love
Through your fears and hurts, you will have a more insightful and mature perspective. That is why the “fragile fragility”, the feeling of hurt is not a weakness but it is the driving force that helps us to thrive. Once you learn to understand your own emotions – including pain as part of your human life experiences, you’ll love again like you’ve never been hurt.
Understand the nature of hurt to live a more peaceful and happy life
Understand the nature of hurt to live a more peaceful and happy life
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2. Fear of losing Yourself
In this world, the most uncertain thing is love, the thing that makes it the most difficult for people to control is affection and the thing that is easiest to lose is yourself. For some people, to lose love is to lose the world, even to lose themselves. They start to fear love, fear of falling, of traumatic feelings after falling in love. Therefore, once they have recovered their emotions, they often choose to maintain their reason so as not to fall into the pit of love any more.
“WE GOD OF BELIEVEMENT TO RECEIVE THE BLADES; IN THE FINAL, WHEN HAS GOODBYE ON TOO MANY BLS, I CAN’T BELIEVE IN ONE MORE, TO ALL OF YOURSELF ”.
Fear of losing yourself
But there are also some adults who are afraid of love because they are afraid of imbalances in their life. We understand that, when starting a new relationship, it means that your personal life has to change a little bit, about your schedule, your plans, your future plans. For some people this turmoil is fun, but for others they don’t want to add “destabilizing factor” to their peaceful life.
3. Fear of Not Having enough time to love
We often associate love with responsibility, which means that when we choose to love someone, we need to take responsibility for their life. However, life today is too busy, so many people often choose to “delay” their love to spend time with themselves, work and family.
For them, love is something that easily distracts the mind and unable to focus on career development. Because when we fall in love, we all cannot avoid the following emotions: constantly waiting for someone’s text, struggling in the lonely dark night, reminiscing our moments together, wondering about the other. What are they thinking… All that makes them think: love is annoying and doesn’t want to fall in love with anyone.
Sometimes the fear of love makes people feel emotionally distressed and feels that love is not the only thing that matters to them in their lives. Because in addition to love, there are many things that bring joy and happiness to each person such as: success at work, healthy body, young soul. So, if you do not love or have not found the right person, just enjoy your life and take the time to do what you want.
