Finding love is hard, nurturing love even more difficult. So, how to go together to the end of the love journey when meeting their destiny?
After being overwhelmed when they first fell in love, almost all couples share the same trend: less passionate, quickly depressed and difficult to accept the true self of their partner. Someone will say, simply because you haven’t met “Mr. Right “of my life. However, it needs a little clarification, “Mr. Right ”is not the person who fits you right from the start but the person who will perfect you and perfect themselves for a long time in order to be able to get along and live happily together. The first impression will give you the “illusion” that this is the ideal relationship you have been looking for so long. But most couples affirm that, after being married, new bad habits gradually appear. If the two of you accept (accepting here is to love the real person of the other party, not reluctantly), you can go a long way together. If not, breaking up is only a matter of time.
Finding an authentic half and building lasting commitments is a journey not only illuminated with the heart, but also in the alertness of reason. So what do you need to do? Please check out the following suggestions.
TO START A RELATION
1. Spend time together: Once you’ve found someone you care about, spend time with them, or frankly, prioritize time with them. Make an appointment for dinner, buy a book together or simply walk around the park and tell innocuous stories … seeing each other regularly is your way to build connections with each other. However, you should not meet each other continuously when you first started. It is often said that the dish that you still crave is a delicious one, let the other person feel nostalgic and desire to see you more.
2. Find out about the other person: The simplest way is to… ask questions, and pay attention to their answers. Don’t ask direct questions, taking a detour will make them feel good and feel your sophistication. For example, asking if they like children or if they want to live close to family, you will partly predict their future plans and conceptions of their family life. The more you research, the more materials you have to decide whether to proceed to this relationship or not, to avoid the risks in marriage.
3. Build trust: To build trust in a person, it takes time. You must always be consistent in your words and actions, don’t talk about other people’s secrets and try to keep your promises even if it’s just a small thing. Besides, it is also important to help them speak honestly. If they ask for something you don’t want, don’t hesitate to tell them straight. Trust comes when you allow yourself to be “vulnerable”. Open your heart to let the other person see your strengths and weaknesses, your fears and lack of confidence, which will create deeper connections.
4. Commitment: Show interest in a long-term relationship. Even if you meet and date the person regularly, they will feel unsure about the relationship if you don’t have an “affirmation”. Let the other person know that you are ready and genuinely interested in connecting with them. If he expresses a clear desire to be closer to you, turn on the green light. If not, prepare yourself to listen to his honest words.
